A great deal of subtlety exists in the words we choose. All through my childhood i was bombarded with nonsense about respecting elders. I could never do that bcoz i never felt any respect for any person just bcoz he/she was elder. And i could never put this into words.
That lack of respect came out through actions. For instance i never touch anyone's feet. i must have done that like 12-13 years back and that too with a heavy stone in my heart. Once i do that i can't face myself. I cringe even at the thought of that. I feel like going on some mountain and flinging myself from there. It hurts my innermost soul. My grandparents and relatives get frustrated. They don't understand why i don't show respect when all other grandchildren do.
Yet, my relations with my relatives is always good. I don't have any hatred for them. It is simply that i haven't found anyone worthy of giving respect. And maybe i never will.
Recently i read an article which i believe will help me put my thoughts into words.
Take our Prime Minister for instance. My feelings for him border on the threshold of hell. Hatred is an understatement. Yet, I don't have any hatred for the post of primeminister.
And this is the difference.... Difference between regard & respect
I have high regard for the Prime Minister's post. I have no respect for the prime minister.
I have high regard for the post/position but whether we have respect or not depends upon whether we can identify even one quality worthy of showing obeisance.
Regard is for that position which has been ordained or created. Respect is for that person/persons individual qualities.
Sometimes the reverse happens. I have high respect for Narayan Murthy/Bill Gates/ Steve Jobs.....and yet i have zero regard for the post of the MD/CEO
Respect is a very fragile thing. For instance imagine that u have high respect for your uncle. But one of ur core values is that u hate corruption ( giving or taking bribes). So when u see ur uncle giving a bribe u become disillusioned and all the respect u had for him for years evaporates.
Similarly in the matter of love.Most people aren't able to digest break-ups or being dumped by their loved one. It churns their very soul. Many start hating the person, the same person who they loved like anything. This happens because of the loss of respect for that person. A person who u thought would stand by u for ever, leaves u alone mid-way. The quality which u thought was an integral part of the person turned out to be an illusion.Love and respect go hand in hand. For, without respect love can't last long.
Finally i am able to pour some of my thoughts into words :) feels like music :) so happy :))))))
That lack of respect came out through actions. For instance i never touch anyone's feet. i must have done that like 12-13 years back and that too with a heavy stone in my heart. Once i do that i can't face myself. I cringe even at the thought of that. I feel like going on some mountain and flinging myself from there. It hurts my innermost soul. My grandparents and relatives get frustrated. They don't understand why i don't show respect when all other grandchildren do.
Yet, my relations with my relatives is always good. I don't have any hatred for them. It is simply that i haven't found anyone worthy of giving respect. And maybe i never will.
Recently i read an article which i believe will help me put my thoughts into words.
Take our Prime Minister for instance. My feelings for him border on the threshold of hell. Hatred is an understatement. Yet, I don't have any hatred for the post of primeminister.
And this is the difference.... Difference between regard & respect
I have high regard for the Prime Minister's post. I have no respect for the prime minister.
I have high regard for the post/position but whether we have respect or not depends upon whether we can identify even one quality worthy of showing obeisance.
Regard is for that position which has been ordained or created. Respect is for that person/persons individual qualities.
Sometimes the reverse happens. I have high respect for Narayan Murthy/Bill Gates/ Steve Jobs.....and yet i have zero regard for the post of the MD/CEO
Respect is a very fragile thing. For instance imagine that u have high respect for your uncle. But one of ur core values is that u hate corruption ( giving or taking bribes). So when u see ur uncle giving a bribe u become disillusioned and all the respect u had for him for years evaporates.
Similarly in the matter of love.Most people aren't able to digest break-ups or being dumped by their loved one. It churns their very soul. Many start hating the person, the same person who they loved like anything. This happens because of the loss of respect for that person. A person who u thought would stand by u for ever, leaves u alone mid-way. The quality which u thought was an integral part of the person turned out to be an illusion.Love and respect go hand in hand. For, without respect love can't last long.
Finally i am able to pour some of my thoughts into words :) feels like music :) so happy :))))))
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